favor of and against covenant marriage?
describe the arguments on favor of and against covenant marriage. which side do you agree with?
covenant marriage–> a fairly new type of legal marriage in which the bride and groom agree to be bound by a marriage covenant that makes divorce difficult.
i need what you think…thanks
The arguments for and against covenant marriage are found also at http://www.divorcereform.org/cov.html
And reproduced further down below. If it appears garbled, drop me a line at bel_loo@yahoo.com
and I can email it to you. The listed pros and cons have some points but this con “As covenant marriage is essentially a religious concept, this proposal infringes the separation of church and state” is wrong. An analysis of the modern need for modern covenant marriage is obtained at http://marriageandfamilies.byu.edu/issues/2000/August/consumer.aspx by William J. Doherty is a professor of family social science and Director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Program at the University of Minnesota. …. “We need a new ideal of marriage that re-emphasizes the commitment and responsibility of the Institutional Marriage while embracing emotional satisfaction elements of the Psychological Marriage and the self-advocacy elements of the Consumer Marriage. We need an ideal of marriage that fosters commitment and individual well-being, both permanence and equality between men and women. An ideal that accepts divorce but sees it as the tragic exception and not the norm. I call this Modern Covenant Marriage “covenant” to connote the religious sense that marriage is a powerful, sacred commitment, and “modern” to suggest that we need a new way to be in committed marriages in the twenty-first century. This form of marriage is similar to, but more than, Covenant Marriage legislation passed in Louisiana and Arizona and proposed in other states.”
I think marriage is a lifelong commitment and only then, can parties singly and jointly delve into the deeper meaning of life and purpose of life, and more importantly, it has a social imperative of securing social order and enhancing it, for the advancement of the people.
Back to http://www.divorcereform.org/cov.html
ProsCons
Covenant marriage might reduce the number of domestic violence cases. A 1991 Justice Department study concluded that current husbands/fathers account for only 9% of the cases of domestic abuse. The rest of the abuse was perpetrated by former husbands, boyfriends or transient partners. Without divorce, women may be less likely to be involved with abusive men.In a covenant marriage, a partner must prove that abuse actually occurred to be permitted to end the marriage. This especially worries advocates for battered women who say that proving domestic abuse can be difficult and the waiting period makes women stay in abusive relationships longer. In addition, mental abuse is not seen as a legitimate reason to end a marriage.
In a covenant marriage, the offended spouse is the only one who can ask for the divorce. This gives the offended spouse many benefits in negotiating the end of the marriage. A women clearly has more to lose in assuming a marriage will last forever, especially if she puts her career on hold to care for children. A covenant marriage is a way for women to have more security in marriage. Religious belief is only one reason to want marriages to succeed; society as a while has an interest in stable families. Advocates for covenant marriage, Amitai Etzioni, founder and director of the Washington-based Communitarian Network, says, “One can be deeply concerned with strengthening the commitment of marriage without favouring traditional or hierarchical forms of marriages or denying women full equal standing.”Some feminists feel initiatives for covenant marriage simply conceal the hidden agenda of the antifeminist Moral Majority. Liberal commentator Katha Pollitt, a columnist for The Nation, says covenant marriages “enforce a narrow and moralistic vision of marriage by rendering divorce more painful and more punitive.” Many advocates of covenant marriage laws are self-described conservative Christians; religious groups are major supporters of covenant marriage laws. Louisiana NOW President Terry O’Neill points out that “’Covenant’ and ‘covenant marriage’ are terms with a very specific meaning in the Christian community.” Conflating religious values with secular laws on marriage is wrong.
The premarital counselling by a trained counsellor that is a requirement of covenant marriage enables the future husband and wife to get to know each other well. Issues such as how to raise children, how to split housework, and financial matters are discussed and explored with the counsellor. Covenant marriage are more restrictive but allows for divorce in specific circumstances: adultery; physical or sexual abuse of a spouse or child; abandonment of at least one year; incarceration of a spouse for a felony conviction; spouses living separate and apart for two years; and a legal separation of one year, or 18 months if a minor child is involved.If partners enter a covenant marriage, they would not be able to divorce until they are separated for at least two years. People could get stuck in marriages and be unable to contin
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